You CAN use water based lubes with latex condoms as it does not degrade them. While lots of people enjoy it, many others would prefer to leave it out of their sexual activities. It takes away from the pleasure. This means that each time you have anal sex, it feels like the first time for your sphincter and it never learns to relax fully and open up. The last thing you want is for it to trigger any bad memories. I know this may sound like one of my less interesting anal sex tips, but safe sex is no joke.